Do You Worry People Speak Negatively Of You?

People talk.
It’s what we do.
We’re a bunch of story-tellers.
And our own personal story is in constant progress.

I’m not sure where you’re at in the process of your life story, but I do know this…
You have a story surrounding your birth – your entrance into this world.
You have a story of your childhood – how, where, and by whom you were raised.
You have stories that are lighthearted.
You have stories that are funny – belly laughter funny, and slightly fetch a chuckle funny.
You have stories of deep hurt and sorrow.

The thing about all of these stories is that every single one of them has played a part in shaping who you are today.

Here you are, right now.
Many stories in your review and a vast windshield of possibilities lie ahead.
Maybe you’ve lived a life you’re proud of.
Maybe you’ve lived a life with quite a few metaphorical speed bumps, detours, and even a car crash or two.

When you’re done thinking about the life you’ve lived thus far, ask yourself ‘what stories are being told about me today?’

If you’re worried those stories are negative, the great thing about today is that you have the opportunity to redirect, to start on a new course if need be!

Here are a few ideas you can implement right now to ensure, from this day forward, you’re at peace with what is said of you!

5 Ways To Turn Negative Stories About You Into Positive Ones

  1. Right Your Wrongs
    Admit you messed up.
    “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” Henry Ford
    It doesn’t mean they have to forgive you. Apologize anyway.
  2. Forgive Others Freely
    “To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” Confucius
    I’m not saying get over it. I’m saying work through it.
    “Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.” unknown
  3. Be Teachable
    Allow mentors to speak truth into your life. Allow friends to keep you accountable. Often we learn more when teaching others, so make sure you’re also mentoring.
    Remember that progress is a slow process full of subtle shifts and tiny tweaks.
    If you mess up in life (which you will) ask forgiveness, forgive yourself, and don’t stay stuck in the yuck.
  4. Love Well
    According to Gary Chapman there are five love languages : gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, and acts of service.
    According to the Bible in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
    And according to Mother Teresa “If you judge people you have no time to love them. Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier. Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”
    Love people. Love them well.
  5. Be Humble
    “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis
    Live a life of serving others.
    A synonym of humility is meekness and the definition of meek is : kind, gentle, courteous, benevolent, unaggressive.
    VALUE : the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.

Give them stories to tell of how valuable you are to them!

Peace be with you,


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